Sexual Recovery Toolkit:
Top 10 (2024)
It can be utterly overwhelming to decide which products to pick for your Sexual Recovery journey. Here’s our regularly updated ‘Toolkit’ based on feedback from the thousands of men in our Touchy audience, and expert opinion from industry specialists.
Best Pump for Rehab and intercourse:
The Vacurect OTC10 (10 rings)
Most men after Prostatectomy will experience Erectile Dysfunction. A Vacuum Erection Device with a constriction system is a non-invasive method of creating and maintaining erections (especially if pills/injections do not work).
You can also use this device for daily rehabilitation (to prevent penile shrinkage, regain length, and maintain penile health), and for solo or partnered sex. Our recommended device is the Vacurect OTC10. This device is discreet, easy to travel with, and comes with 10 ring sizes.
2. Best Male Vibrator for orgasm and erection rehab:
‘Pulse Solo’ by Hot Octopuss
Many men in A Touchy Subject’s network find their experience of pleasure and orgasm different post-surgery. Adding new sensations with a vibrator can help find elusive orgasms, and offer a new way to have fun with a partner that is not dependent on erections.
We recommend the Pulse by Hot Octopuss. This device can also be incorporated as part of your erection rehab regime.
3. Best New ED device (to monitor progress):
Firmtech ‘Tech Ring’
The Firmtech Tech Ring offers a revolutionary way to track your erection recovery after prostate cancer treatment. Worn overnight, it measures nocturnal erections, a key indicator that your erection nerves are coming back online.
Additionally, the Tech Ring can be used during solo or partnered play to monitor erections over time. It helps identify how lifestyle factors like alcohol, stress, and sleep quality impact your erection health, providing valuable insights for your recovery journey.
4. Best Cock Ring for firmness and maintaining:
‘Max PR Ring’ by Firmtech
The Firmtech Max PR Ring adds extra firmness and stay-ability to your erections. Many men in the Touchy audience like to apply this ring after they’ve created a 50-80% erection either naturally or with an intervention (such as penile injections or intraurethral gel).
5. Best Toy for Female Pleasure (external):
‘Womaniser Next’
This is perfect for women who enjoy external stimulation to the clitoris (fun facts: the clitoris is the only human organ designed for the sole purpose of receiving pleasure, and the whole structure contains as much erectile tissue as a penis!)
We recommend the Womaniser (awful name, but a great toy!). This device uses air pressure technology to give a suction-y, fluttery, tongue-like feeling. It features body-safe material, is 100% waterproof, and rechargeable.
Watch: How to choose a toy for your female partner (for beginners)
6. Best Toy for Anal Pleasure (post prostate):
‘Helix Syn Trident’ by Aneros
Yes, you can explore anal pleasure after prostate removal! In fact, this area may be even more sensitive with the capacity for astounding pleasure after prostate removal.
We recommend investing in a product designed for anal exploration with a good flared base for safety, and a sturdy but flexible shaft for easeful internal massage.
Watch: How to explore anal pleasure for multiple orgasms post prostate removal
7. Best long-lasting lubricant for pleasure:
‘Uberlube’ Silicone-based lubricant
Finding the right lubricants for you and your partner is life-changing. In our humble opinion, this is essential for every Sexual Recovery Kit. If you haven’t explored lube before or beyond the chemist/supermarket varieties, we recommend Uberlube.
This is a long-lasting, silicone-based lubricant, in a stylish push-top bottle. Perfect for men learning to orgasm flaccid (this lube prevents friction). Perfect for women experiencing vaginal dryness or sensitive vulvas. The formula is hypo-allergenic and does not absorb into the skin. No more sticky, tacky lubes that you have to reapply - this one feels like liquid silk.
Please note - silicone-lubricants cannot be used with silicone products such as vibrators or pump openings, this one is best on its own.
8. Best body-safe lubricant for silicone-based products.
Sliquid’s water-based range
You’ve got to remember the Lube Rules when it comes to your Toolkit - water-based lubricant ONLY on silicone-based toys.
You might have invested in some excellent products (like the ones mentioned here!) and you want to maintain the integrity of that toy so it lasts for years. The best way is to use water-based lubricant, and clean (with soap n water) after and before each use. Not all lubes are made the same though, in particular, if you’re using a product internally (either vaginal or anal) you want to make sure the lube you choose is fit for purpose.
9. Best product for Arousal Incontinence:
The Liberator Throw
Climacturia or Arousal incontinence (leakage during sex/orgasm/arousal) is common after Prostatectomy. In this situation, you might find the worry of leakage distracts from sexual enjoyment.
Getting a ‘sex blanket’ can help put these worries to rest. The Liberator Throw is designed to hold 3 litres of fluid without soaking through. It’s a soft, velvet-feeling blanket that you wash easily after use. This can also be a useful ‘initiating prop’ in the bedroom to let your lover know when you’re in the mood.
Learn more about how to manage and overcome arousal incontinence here.
10. Best strap-on for ED:
‘Zoro’ by Perfect Fit
A ‘strap-on’ or external prosthesis is another alternative to enjoying penetrative sex with your partner when you’re experiencing ED.
There’s even a fascinating case study about how to use the power of Neuroplasticity to ‘train your brain’ to feel the sensations of pleasure and orgasm through a strap-on as if it were your own appendage! Read more about that case study and what it’s like using a strap-on here:
The information provided above is general in nature and is not intended for the purposes of diagnosis or treatment. Please always seek the advice of your medical practitioner for your individual situation.